Ok people! This blog today might be a bit heavy. If nothing else, I know I’ll be stepping on some toes with this one. But it has to be said! Ready? You are responsible for you who and what you attract. The types of mates, friends and situations you attract are not random. They very much have to do with who you are a how you behave.
Think about it. If you are constantly speaking negatively about your finances, ability to be successful and the fact that you are in a deplorable situation, do you really think you are attracting millionaires and winners into your circle? No! You will attract people who are also broke and have no hope or dreams for the future. Why do you think those older, wiser people in your life always said, “Show me who your friends are, and I’ll tell you where you’ll be in 5-10 years.” ?
If you’re rude, consistently impatient and unkind, chances are you going to attract people who also have nasty attitudes and seek to put others down. Too often many of us have had the notion that people have to take whatever we give them. But the truth is, people don’t have to take your toxic behavior and chances are they will not. Even the Word of God says that if we want to have friends, we must first show ourselves friendly (Proverbs 18:24)! You usually don’t have to look far when seeking to figure out why you have the types of connections you have. The answer often lies within.
This modern-day society has done a poor job of reminding us that it’s all about quality over quantity. We are constantly putting on a mask, looking for the perfect picture, and trying to secure the next big deal. Now I’m not saying we should dim our light and not go after everything God has for us. But I am saying that in an era where we’ve seemed to master how to be disingenuous, we end up attracting relationships that are not real in return. However, that is just a start.
Perhaps you also attract the wrong types of people into your life because you were never taught how to attract the right ones. That may not have initially been your fault, but now as a grown man or woman, you must recognize that you will only attract what you put out. Minute Maid juice has a saying “Put good in, get good out.” Now they are referring to the physical body. But I believe the same is true in every area of our lives. If we display love, joy, peace, patience and forgiveness, that is what we will receive. Treat others the way you want to be treated. It’s still the golden rule and it still works.
For people of faith, this is not a foreign concept. You reap what you sow (Galatians 6:7). Treat your life and relationships like a garden. Plant good seeds, water them, and nurture them so that they can grow. As weeds begin to enter the garden, pull them up. In order to attract the right people in your life you have to constantly do introspection and make adjustments wherever you can. Always remember that not everyone can go with you in every stage of your life. Knowing this will keep you from being untrue to yourself and others. Remain humble at every stage and grow. You are what you attract.
Be well,
Dr. Mya